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Watch Your Mouth 3 - Gossiping

Did you hear what happened? Gossip can feel really good, and if the person you are talking to never hears about it, who does it really hurt? Actually, gossip hurts more people than you think.

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Gossip hurts. Gossip hurts the person it is spoken about, the person who hears it, and the person who speaks it. So really, gossip hurts everybody and gossip is everywhere. Gossip isn't a church problem or a child problem, it is a people problem.

So how do we stop gossiping? We need to stop listening to it and stop speaking it.

Who are the people in your life that speak it? What can you do to prevent them from gossiping to you?

When do you find yourself gossiping the most? What excuses do you give yourself to get away with it? What steps can you take to stop speaking gossip?

Instead of being known for gossip, what if we were known for encouraging others? This week, purposely talk to people about other people. But instead of gossiping, talk about what they are good at and why they are special.

You won't believe what encouraging words can do for your relationships and for you.

Watch Your Mouth 2 - Criticizing

People aren’t perfect, which is why it is so easy to criticize someone’s behavior. We hate to be criticized, but we don’t mind giving it. What can we do with our criticism?

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Jesus gives us a great analogy about judging and criticizing. He says, "First take the plank out of your own eye, then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye" (Matthew 7:5).

Many of us are hurting our relationships through our criticisms. Below, write down how you believe your criticism may be effecting your relationships.

Now that we know what relationships are being affected, let's do something about it!

Instead of finding fault, we want to reveal hope. How can we change our criticism to have a positive intention and focus on the future? The words you use matter! Next time you have a criticism, do not rush to speak. Pause. Think about why you are saying what you are saying. Write down what you want to say if you need to. Make sure you have a relationship with the person, make sure you are focused on the positives not the negative, and make sure you are focused on the future and not the past.

And make sure you don't have a huge plank in your eye!

Watch Your Mouth 1 - Complaining

Life is not easy. With hard days at work, family members driving us nuts, and life not working out the way you want it to, there are plenty of things to complain about. But what does complaining really do in your life?

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No one likes complaining, but we all do it. And the more we complain, the easier it becomes. 

The Israelites complained constantly, but they were not complaining because of their situation but because of what was in their heart. 

Our complaints come from our heart. In order to fight against it, we have to remind ourselves of what God has done and be grateful. 

Below, right down times in your life that God has showed up. 

Take that list above and thank God for each one. It may even help to put some of your reminders around your house so you do not forget. Every time you read or think about these reminders, thank God for them. 

Reminders and Gratitude are the way to break the cycle of complaining.